Liked or unliked, that is the question!

 

Social media is weird, we can all agree on that; the interactions you have on facebook, instagram, threads, etc don't aways bear any similarity to interactions you would have in real life. I hasten to add that this is not always the case; I try to be as accurate to my offline self as possible snd I would day my social media presence is fairly authentic to my everyday vibe. 

This isn't going to be a blog post saying all social media is evil or corrupting society because I firmly believe it can be a great thing. I've met people through various social media sites and many I class as my friends now. I use my social media accounts to attempt to entertain because lord knows the world has enough hate, misery and bitterness already, so if one of my stupid posts raise a smile then that has to be a good thing. 

So, what exactly is this blog post about? Well, it's "likes". I don't do anything for attention, genuinely, and I know a lot of my lovely friends do click like and comment on my stuff and I will always appreciate them taking time out to look what I've posted. I would be lying though if I were to say I've not noticed if certain friends never click like on my stuff yet like others - it definitely does happen and in my more intense moods I take it to heart. I can't help noticing those who don't check out my stuff but pepper others with likes and comments, it's really noticeable. 

Other than a couple of my siblings and some of my nieces and nephews most of my family never click like or comment on my stuff yet have a huge "love in" on each others posts and I know that used to get to me when I was posting things about my kids, etc. But, (if you know of my rocky relationship with my family), is no surprise really and I'm totally over it.

But, despite my assurances that this doesn't bother me; why does seeing friends interacting with others except yourself always sting a tiny bit? Is this the problem with social media? It is so easy to misread situations if you're not careful. I hasten to add this isn't a self-pitying rant, I'm not needy enough for this to be a genuine issue - please don't now start clicking like on my stuff thinking I'm upset - I'm really not. I only ever really acknowledge it in those moments when I'm needing sleep and paranoia kicks in. Does this mean they dislike me? No, probably not. Does this mean they aren't my friends? Nope, we're still mates - I'm really not that controlling and narcissistic. 

I'm only typing this as it just popped into my head whilst scrolling through facebook so figured I would share my thoughts on this phenomena. 

Here's to all you lovely folks who like, comment and enjoy my stuff! You are awesome and appreciated! 

But also let's hear it for the "lurkers" who stay silent on here but in real life have my back. They remain friends with me despite me posting stuff they potentially don't find very interesting. Social media isn't real, it's just a version of you that you wish to project - this is fine, just dont get it twisted.

I love you people!