Friendship goals

 

If you were to look up the word 'friend' in a dictionary it would say something along the lines of "a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection" and if you then flipped through that same dictionary and read the definition of 'soulmate' you would see it says something like "a person ideally suited to another as a close friend". They can be the same thing, friends and soulmates. 

Long ago I realised that it is therefore entirely possible for someone to have a number of 'soulmates' which must be good for the soul - the clues in the name. 

Now, not all friends automatically become soulmates, oh no. I'm lucky in that I have a lot of friends who I've met in a variety of places and at various different times in my life who I've spent many happy hours with, laughing and joking. Some friendships, over time, naturally change, maybe even become distant, this is just a fact of life; certain friends may come and go and although they will often remain a friend, you may not be as close as you were because life kind of gets in the way, maybe you outgrow each other, who knows! It's always sad when friends drift apart but I believe in some small way you eill always remain friends really, those happy years don't just disappear. Basically, once we are friends, we will generally always remain friends. 

However, there are certain friends who reach 'soulmate' status; the friends who not only share the happy times but maybe the not so happy times with you. These friendships are definitely next level - you both click instantly, you have a similar sense of humour, you can speak openly without fear of being judged, you know whatever happens you will have each others backs. These friendships are rare but can pop up at any time. I have a few soulmate/best friends like this; one I've known since the age of five whereas another of my closest friends I only met seven years ago! Some friends I met as a child, others via work, there are even a couple I met via another soulmate, (my wife). I probably only have a handful of these really close friends and I can honestly say hand on heart that I love them, (in a completely non-weird, platonic way). 

I adore spending time with all of my friends, but these particular friends I actively seek out spending time with them because it's always fun seeing them. If you are one of these amazing friends, you'll know because I would have been trying to socialise with you and most probably referred to you as "one of my best friends" - I just want to say a huge thanks for just being you and being a true friend to me. I'm afraid you're stuck with me for life though so you may as well get used to it, (it's your own fault for being so darn likeable though), and once more for good measure - I love you folks! 

I realise this is a sentimental blog post, maybe even saccharine, but it's the truth so it's perfect! 

Embrace and cherish your soulmates, best friends and loved ones - they are rare in life so if you find someone who just "gets you" you should let them know, it may be just what they needed to hear at that time.