Today is national "don't cry over spilt milk" day and anyone who follows my online projects here on social media will know that I'm celebrating every day in accordance to whatever "national day" it is. Today, I posted a lighthearted video of myself clearly not crying over spilt milk and a few hours afterwards I got a message from someone on Instagram informing me that I'm "not celebrating just virtue signalling" and "thats not what the day is about. Its about not sweating the small stuff". Obviously I was aware that today wasn't about emotional despair over spilt cow juice but I thought rather than explain this to this person I would do a rundown of five minor things that I don't let worry me, (clearly criticism of a stranger isn't one of them as here I am typing a blog post).
It's worth stating before I begin that there are plenty of things I do obsessively stress over but there isn't enough space here to list all of these hangups. Also, this blog post isn't designed to garner sympathy or pity, it's also not written to fish for compliments or the like. It is just my own very honest opinion on things I no longer worry about, enjoy!
1) My rapidly balding head. As you can see from the photo above, I once had a lot of hair, I had no idea I was going to be going bald as the years flew by. But, I genuinely don't care in the slightest! I realise for some going bald is cause for concern but for me it just doesn't matter. I've never looked good anyway, especially my hair, in fact other than the above era I used to regularly shave my head anyway so I'm used to it anyway, there is just less to shave nowadays.
2) Differing opinions! This has definitely changed over the years - I used to get really riled up by those with views different to my own, (and as a lifelong left-wing, socialist, anti-establishment atheist there were plenty of people with opposite viewpoints), and would think nothing or aguing with them for hours, etc. Nowadays though if you disagree with my views on anything, that's cool! We can still hang out and be mates, we will generally find some common ground - even if it is only our shared love of cheese, we can eat cheese together! I may not be religious but if you are - awesome! We vote differently? Ok! I am done with trying to change others opinions, it's not my place to do so and I don't tend to get offended really, I am a strong defender of people having their own opinions, (this is not to be confused with "hate" however; I am not "phobic" of anyone's ethnicity, sexuality, race, belief, gender, etc. So obviously if I witnessed any kind of bigotry occurring I would step in. You can hold any opinion you like but once you hurl abuse at someone that becomes hate and that's not cool. Call me a "snowflake" if you like, I'm honestly ok with that).
3) Lack of money. This has never bothered me in any shape or form but especially now. I guess if you have never had something it is difficult to miss it. The last time I had any amount of money was when I was about 20 and I had a couple of grand stored up, I gave most of that away and spent the rest on "experiences" so it was short-lived. I have a lot of debt, (thanks to the tories, cost of living and energy rises), but I don't let this stress me out because there is nothing I can do about it. The way I see it is whether I have £100 debt or £1000+ debt it makes no difference as I can't repay either right now so it's kind of meaningless and truth be told the debt will be around longer than I will so why worry really!?
4) Levelling up! Now don't me wrong, for some people they enjoy career or life progression and that's great, but hear me out...I think there is much to be said about being content. I used to constantly worry that I had no idea what I wanted to do career wise or that I wasn't hitting life goals that others had and then one day I realised I had wasted so much time thinking of what the next step was rather than just enjoying where I was in that moment and it changed my outlook. I am content and no longer worry about other things that may or may not occur.
5) The way I look! I've never REALLY worried about my outward appearance but since turning 40 even more so! I used to be concerned about not looking at least "average" when I was younger. Now I'm older the realisation that nobody is remotely interested in what I look like helped a lot; I'm aware I am a mess but a very content mess so it's all good. I cannot reverse the aging process and quite frankly, I've never considered myself adequate-looking so the only thing that has changed is my age, hairline and any effort/attempt to make myself look remotely "good". This isn't a depressing, self-pitying thing - quite the opposite, it's really freeing, I wear what I like and care not what others think of what I look like! I think actions and kindness are much more important than looks anyhow and I always try to be kind so I'm doing alright.
There we are, those are my 5 little things I don't sweat over. And what is the one thing that connects them all you may ask? They are all things I don't really have any control over essentially, so why stress over them? I can't regrow my hair, I can't change others opinions and nor do I wish to, I've worked solidly since I was 15 and I'm still broke, I'm content with my lot in life and I enjoy food and horrendous attire - so none of that will change so why stress! I hasten to add that this is just my opinion so if you feel like you should stress over these things - you do you! I'm ok with minor issues myself.
I'm also cool with milk being spilt...just saying...
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